Do What Is Right For You

Do what is right for you. No one else is walking in your shoes
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“Do what is right for you. No one else is walking in your shoes.”

Being emotional intelligent means knowing when to value other’s opinion, and when not to. Having awareness and consideration of what others think of us is also crucial for our growth. But if we go towards the extreme, it may prevent us from being effective and authentic human beings.

Seeking others approval was conditioned to us at an early age. It gives us a sense of higher self-esteem, until we’re convinced that our self-worth is dependent on other’s recognition. Whenever we lose their approval, we feel the urge to win it back, no matter the cost. That’s because humans are evolutionarily wired to crave inclusions, primarily for survival reasons. The consequences of being rejected could get our prehistoric ancestors killed! As a result, our brains and behaviours adapted to avoid disapproval from others, even as times have changed and following the crowd is no longer crucial to survival.

CEO of YourCoach and the bestselling author of “Life By Design”, Tom Ferry, describes that urge as an addiction that robs a person of his personal freedom. He suggests listening to other’s opinions but ultimately relying on one’s own perspective, goals, and happiness. Impressing others can do more harm than good to our lives in the long run.

As Brigham Young says, “Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions that we do our own?” We don’t always make the right decisions, but neither do they.

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