“In the blink of an eye, everything can change. So forgive often and love with all your heart. You may never know when you may not have that chance again.”
Impermanence is a fact. Nothing lasts forever and with a blink of an eye, the things we love most, even our own lives, can disappear. But instead of cowering in fear and holding on tight to what we have, psychologists suggest that we should accept impermanence with open arms.
We humans just love the concept of perpetuity despite knowing. Dr. Steven Reiss identified it as part of basic human desire, in his book “Who Am I: The 16 Basic Desires that Motivate Our Actions and Define our Personalities”. The idea of permanence may help us feel secure, but this unrealistic desire only leads to suffering. This implies that accepting permanence may lead to a happier existence!
William Berry’s article “Accept Impermanence Be Happier” asserts that accepting impermanence leads to embracing the present. Realizing life’s fragility is a call to being mindful and appreciative of the moment. It also helps you discover your true self, according to Dr. Douglas LaBier. Embracing impermanence awakens the authentic self and brings out one’s strength, character, and unique facets of personality. In another article with the same theme, Dr. Robert Puff maintains that we can do nothing but to simply adjust to the impermanence of life, as resilient people do. By flowing with life’s changes, impermanence become less painful and life retains its beauty and meaning.
Changes may be painful but it’s part of our evolution as humans. The universe itself changes to survive, and perhaps it’s not only inevitable but vital to our existence.