Be Soft. Do Not Let The World Make You Hard.

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“Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place.” – Iain Thomas

Iain Thomas (1980 – present) is a bestselling writer and new media artist known for his book “I Wrote This For You” and “Intentional Dissonance. In 2009, he was voted one of the top 5 finalists in the world in the “Best Blogger to Follow” category on

This quote from Thomas speaks about maintaining compassion despite painful circumstances. Tanya Singer, an expert in social neuroscience, believes that compassion is the solution to depression, burnout and narcissism. In contrast with empathy, compassion is a feeling of pity without experiencing sadness if the person is sad. She used Buddhist monks as examples of her theory. While watching a video of people suffering, their fMRI scans showed heightened activity in the brain regions responsible for caring and nurturing. Contrastingly, the similar videos caused unpleasant feelings of sadness and pain to non-meditators. She concluded that empathy should be converted to compassion in order to avoid emotional burnout without diminishing care and pity.

Commonly, people use the term “survival of the fittest” to justify getting ahead and being superior. But in reality, Darwin’s work is more appropriately described as “survival of the kindest.” In his groundbreaking works, Darwin remarked that “communities, which included the greatest number of the most sympathetic members, would flourish best, and rear the greatest number of offspring.”

Darwin found out that compassion is inherent in humans and animals. It explains why it’s an integral part of existence. To quote Dalai Lama: “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.”

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